This day 15 years ago I woke in wonder…everything buzzed around me but it was as if life had slowed to a crawl. It was REALLY happening that very hot and humid day late July…I am to marry. For the first time sitting in the wing back chair of my parents, I felt beautiful. The first time.ever. that I can remember actually feeling beauty. Nothing but pure joy and anticipation filled me that day…that forever long morning of not seeing him and getting ready. I was surrounded by friends and family but only could think of ONE. The One that chose me. The One who would vow in sickness and health, for richer or poorer…until death…vow to stay with me.
The full reality of those vows that were mere words of tradition knitted into a ceremony that would end with a shared last name became words knitted into the fabric of our lives as we faced.each.one and chose to remain.ONE.
I, Stephanie, take you Jeffery, to be my wedded husband
to have and to hold from this day forward
for better for worse
for richer for poorer
in sickness and in health
to love and to cherish
’til death do us part: according to God’s holy ordinance
and thereto I pledge you my love and faithfulness.
As we had to choose to remain in the thick of ugly…selfishness…doubt…fear and life just being that hard…Something happened…We made those vows in ignorant bliss and lived them in painful reality…and what were mere good intentions became a deep well of life giving beauty…a love tried and true. Keeping…standing…staying…even though…even IF…choosing to keep a vow even if it was just that, keeping your word…transform naive innocent dreams into deep intimate reality…each year deeper…each year more beautiful.
Honestly in ourselves saying words just is not enough for how good.it.is. There is something greater at work. A vow made to love…cherish…and stay with us by the Giver Of Life…the King of Kings…The Lover of our Souls…before the world was made. That VOW preceded all vows to abide and makes it possible to overcome, withstand and stay true. He MAKES beautiful things…He makes us beautiful!! Thank You Jesus for making a way for US to enter into the greatest love and deepest intimacy of the Trinity…without it we would be broken, vows just words impossible to keep and we simply dust.
I take you Jeffrey, to be my husband, loving you now and as you grow and develop into all that God intends. I will love you when we are together and when we are apart; when our lives are at peace and when they are in turmoil; when I am proud of you and when I am disappointed in you; in times of rest and in times of work. I will honor your goals and dreams and help you to fulfill them. From the depth of my being, I will seek to be open and honest with you. I say these things believing that God is in the midst of them all.